/ Tuesday, August 01, 2006
Something dawned upon me before i went to sleep. a friend of mine called me. Apparently, she was in jc 1 this year. Having not talked to her for a long time, i was surprised that she called me.
After the slight greetings and formalities, i noticed that her voice was not usual. She immediately broke down, spilling out her thoughts that was in her for a long time, turned out that recently she had flunked all her tests though she studied very hard, her project work was left for her all to do and on top of that, she and her boyfriend of two years broke off with a tiff. At that point, in class her friends were all teasing her about her grades.
It all adds up to make a happy person very miserable . I must admit that i was saddened by it. She ended off with blaming all her friends for these things happening, and kept quit for a long period of time. It was this period of time that i talked to her. the first thing i did was to ask her, must she blame her friends for these turn of events? Do they really deserve her wrath?
Firstly, for her project work, it would seem to appear that her group members are not doing their fair share and she has therefore taken it upon herself to ensure that everything is completed.
I told her this, "
Only you can give others the permission to walk over you."
I doubt that during the course of her project she had actually given her friends a list of responsibilities to do. She did not. Her role was to allow other people to do tthier best, and she has to fight off the urge to take control of the whole project. AS for her results, she has only one thing to do, that is to study even harder. Failure is only part of life. I too have failed many times, but no matter what it is i manage to pull myself up, though somethings might take a bit longer. About her recent slight tiff with her boyfriend resukting in a break up, I could only say one thing to her. "
Love is something that should brave time and obstacles." Her tiff was that she thought that her boyfriend was with other girls as he was talking to other girls more than her and going out with them more often. "Why care?" If you do trust your partner or someone you love (deciding to chase) then dont mind these small matters. I told her to talk to her boyfriend one on one, dosent matter who calls who in this scene.
For me, i like and still do like a certain someone, things like this happen but it does not bother me that much, i might be tinged with jealously at times but in the end i will realise that there is no point in feeling jealous. "
Sometimes you find yourself searching for answers because you are not prepared to settle for anything unless it is the answer you are looking for." If you like a person then do your best to chase him/her.
At times it is the ability to share your troubles with someone and not the finding of a soultion that is more important. In the end, she still was not saying anything but im sure that she understood what i said. She was grateful to me as i have helped cure her emotionaly, but truthfully i dont deserve it. Only the person who started having problem will be able to solve it. I was just there to make her realise that fact.
Well hope this incident that happened to me today can help anyone reading this blog who has almost the same situation. ^^
/Hopped!
8:30 AM
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